Everyone needs social skills to survive in the civilized world. Whether you use them for your job, around your friends, or in your home, anyone can appreciate a well-rounded person to work with or to have a conversation with.
Social skills are what we use to send emotional feelings or intellectual messages to others.
No matter what the social skill, they each say the same thing. They say you are a human being who is considerate of others, aware of their surroundings, and can keep their composure in stressful situations.
Here are 5 social skills you need to make sure you add to your social skill repertoire.
Have you ever told a friend that you are happy, and your friend replied back to you, “someone should tell your face?”
Well, this phrase has everything to do with body language and demeanor. Body language is the way in which you carry your body, and demeanor is the overall appearance of your body and face present. Both of these are extremely important aspects of social skills.
Studies show that communication is only 7% verbal and 93% non-verbal. It goes to show that our body language and demeanor are weighted quite heavily in the social realm.
Learning proper body language and demeanor techniques take practice and intentional thought. However, you can start by straightening your posture, uncrossing your arms to look more approachable, and smiling more. Not only do these practices boost your social skills, but they can also boost your self-esteem as well.
Active listening is a social skill that has less to do with hearing than it sounds.
It combines skills like eye contact, conversational engagement, and leaning forward with your body to make sure your audience knows your listening to them.
The skill is helpful to practice in any social situation. Whether your friend is telling you about a problem they might have, getting instructions from your supervisor, or chatting with a parent, it’s always a good idea to be considerate and let others know you are listening and engaging in what they have to say.
Demonstrating good manners goes beyond saying “please” and “thank you.” It is the foreground of most of your social skills, the mother of them all.
Practicing good manners could include holding doors open for people behind you, chewing your food with your mouth closed, and using discretion in conversations.
At some point in your life, you will probably have to work in a team. For many people, this is a difficult task because it takes a lot of communication, buried opinions, and self-discipline to work in a team. It can be a laborious social skill to practice, especially if you are a person who likes to be the leader at all times.
Learning to work in a team setting makes you an adaptable person. A team consists of a group of people with entirely different background and points of view. The ability to work in a team setting shows that you can accommodate different opinions and work styles for the betterment of the task at hand.
The social aspect of this is to keep your composure when you think you could do it a better way, or morally supporting the team with words of encouragement.
Accountability is a social skill you will need to rely on for the rest of your life. It is the glue which holds your jobs and relationships together and really polishes off your social skill repertoire.
Here are a few rules to accountability that you should follow:
Be on Time
Whoever coined the phrase, “Early is on time, on time is late,” was on to something. Don’t be late for anything if you can avoid it. If you are running late due to unforeseeable events, then make sure you notify the person you are meeting with.
Finish What You Start
Whatever you do, don’t leave things half done. Whether it’s a school project, a work presentation, or cleaning a bathroom – finishing what you start is a good habit. It teaches you to persevere, even when you don’t feel like it.
Be Willing to Tackle Hard Projects
Want your boss to rely on you more than they do? Do you want a chance to show people what you are made of? Be more willing to tackle hard projects that other people won’t take or have dropped unexpectedly. Doing this will grant you credibility in your abilities and show people they can count on you.
Each and every one of these social skills will take additional practice and consistency over days, weeks, months, and years. It’s never too late to begin – start practicing these tips today.